“When love is a theory, it’s safe, it’s free of risk. But love in the brain changes nothing…Love is too beautiful a concept to keep locked up behind a forehead like a prisoner.”
–Donald Miller in the forward of Love Does, by Bob Goff
I’m love crazed.
People roll their eyes at me because of it. I think people assume I’m just too naïve to know better.
To set the record straight, I’ve seen crap. I know why love can be hard. I’ve seen the ugliness of humanity. I’ve experienced the ugliness of humanity. And, yes, I’ve even been ugly to humanity.
But crap isn’t an excuse to ignore love.
It’s not an excuse because I believe true life is love. I believe God is Love and God is the source of Life…so it’s logical for me to believe that Love is the source of Life.
I believe that life is only about love.
Yes, I believe it’s that simple.
“The greatest science in the world; in heaven and on earth; is love.”
Love isn’t static. Because then it’s not love. Love fills our souls and then moves beyond our own lives.
Love isn’t just a feeling or emotion.
Love is an action whose affects will change us forever…it evokes immense value, gratitude, humility, and a desire to give…give love.
Love is for our neighbors. It’s for our friends. It’s for the strangers we pass on the sidewalk.
Human beings are pre-wired for love. To be loved. To give love.
Life is about the one thing that can overflow from our souls, into the lives of others. Love breaks through walls of religion, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, culture, geography…everything. I believe it’s why the Gospel spread like wildfire in early days. It wasn’t about religion. It was about a simple message of radical love that profoundly changed peoples’ lives. They felt love, and couldn’t not give it away.
The only thing complicated about love is how we try to redefine it with ifs, buts, and rules…or when we assume love is only for ourselves. Even the dictionary defines the noun “love” as a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. Love is not about you being right, or showing others that you know best…there is no room for judgment in love. Love serves, love gives, is humble, patient, kind, trusts, and hopes.
That is our filter for what love is…a love that never becomes obsolete.
Sound like a tall order? I start by remembering that love is for me…and then works through me.
And then I assure myself that I’ll mess up, but that mess-ups don’t matter in love.
I’ll get in my own way.
I can’t single-handedly change the world.
I don’t have to perform love perfectly to be loved.
Because love isn’t conditional, or contingent upon what I do well or what I screw up. I can’t earn love. True love is a gift. Any other kind of love really isn’t love at all.
That’s how I am loved.
And, honestly, my low moments in life are those spent pitying myself, feeling like I need more for me. Love can never be fulfilled in those moments, because I’ve learned that those moments assume love stops with me. But, the best moments in life are spent giving love away…words, smiles, meals, hugs…it comes in many forms. That kind of love not only changes the one who receives love, but also the one who gives it.
Love is not a commodity. Love is my theology. Love is a mission. Love is our very being.
Let love continue among you. Let it be the air you take in, that uncurls within you, and extends between you. -Hebrews 13:1, The Voice